Starting college can feel like being dropped into a whole new world—exciting, overwhelming, and sometimes lonely. You’re surrounded by thousands of people, yet finding your people—the ones who just get you—can take time. But don’t worry, you’re not alone in this, and there are real, simple ways to build your circle. Here’s how:
1. Say Yes to Clubs (at Least at First)
Clubs are one of the easiest and most effective ways to meet people with similar interests. Whether it’s a cultural group, an improv troupe, a sustainability club, or a pre-professional organization, showing up is half the battle. The other half? Actually introducing yourself.
🔑 Pro tip: Go to your campus club fair—even if you’re unsure. Sign up for a few mailing lists. Try two or three meetings before deciding if it’s a fit.
2. Make the Most of Dorm Life
Dorms are built-in social hubs. Leave your door open when you’re hanging out. Join floor events, movie nights, or study groups. Your RA isn’t just there to tell you to keep it down—they’re often your best resource for meeting others.
💡 Real talk: You won’t click with everyone in your hall, but putting in some effort early on can lead to lasting friendships or at least friendly faces in the dining hall.
3. Find Your Spot on Campus
Are you a library regular? Coffee shop dweller? Gym enthusiast? Consistently showing up in the same spaces at the same times often leads to casual, then consistent, connections. These “third places” (not dorm, not classroom) become surprisingly important.
☕ Tip: Smile or say hi to people you recognize. Small talk can turn into real talk over time.
4. Go to Events Solo (Yes, Really)
It’s scary at first, but going to events alone actually forces you to meet new people. Welcome weeks, interest panels, concerts, speaker series—many people attend these alone and are open to conversation.
🎟️ Challenge: Pick one event a week to attend on your own during your first month.
5. Take Initiative—It’s Worth It
Ask someone to grab coffee after class. Suggest forming a study group. Invite people to join you at a club meeting or dining hall meal. Reaching out feels awkward, but most people are just as eager to connect as you are.
🧠 Mindset shift: Making friends isn’t about being liked by everyone. It’s about finding a few people you feel comfortable with—and that takes time.
6. Be Patient, Be You
Not everyone finds their best friends in the first month—or even the first year. Relationships take time to build. Keep showing up, stay curious, and be open. The right people are out there—and they’re probably looking for you too.
Final Thoughts
College is more than just academics—it’s where you grow into yourself. Finding your people won’t always be instant, but with intention and a little courage, you’ll discover a community that makes campus feel like home.
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